LANGUAGE AND PERSONAL STYLE
For: Marinella Calzona
The habit does not do the monk but the language yes because it denotes immediately the personal style and the level of refinement of the person. Unfortunately a bad understood sense of the freedom is identifying the feminine emancipation with the uninhibited tone, with the aggressive behavior and with speaking torn open.
Speaking they have many components and tones: the tone of voice, the vocabulary, the grace with which an argumentation or a suggestion appears, the tact in saying and in asking, the prudence on having recounted facts and opinions. To look at the eyes and to dedicate all your attention to the speaker, to be able to ask using one "please", to be able to be grateful, are elementary ways of good education to be put into practice in all occasion, in the work, in a social act or in family. But also there are particular forms of elegance that define the personal style. It is possible to say everything with the suitable voice tone: not too much under that it forces the one that listens to big I struggle, not too highly because it turns out to be unpleasant and vulgar.
It is necessary always to use the correct way. When we speak about correction in speaking we think immediately about the words that must be used and in the use of the grammatical and syntactic rules. The words reproduce concepts and indicate objects; they serve to communicate with the others, express our knowledge but also our feelings. The richer is our biggest vocabulary it is our aptitude to express ourselves exactly and to do it to him to understand to the others. We are not referring to the use of too affected words or of complex and complicated phrases: we are more refined and more capable of speaking all the more concepts and simple and understandable phrases let's use.
On having listened to the conversations in the meter or in the bus they give desire of giving some small advices and not only to the very young ones. Let's try to eliminate the intercalation or the use of the words that do not express concepts or precise objects: for example the use of the word “uncle“ or of more vulgar expressions referred to sexual organs that we avoid to transcribe. It is not enough nevertheless a wide vocabulary to become elegant or to have an impeccable style, it is necessary to eliminate words and vulgar expressions.
The use of “blocks“ is spread extensively in all the ages and in all the social layers. The movies, the fashionable soap operas and the television do not help us to polish our expressions. But if the blocks or “cursing“ turn out to be slightly elegant for some, they are worthy of estigmatización in mouth of a woman. The habit does not do the monk but the language yes because it denotes immediately the personal style and the level of refinement of the person. What reasons can have induced some women to incorporate a provocative and vulgar language that is out of tune even in mouth of a man? Perhaps a bad understood sense of the freedom is identifying the feminine emancipation with the uninhibited tone, with the aggressive behavior and with speaking torn open: A need for equality that they stop in the most marginal facts and in the imitations of what it turns out to be lacking in elegance even in the man? But perhaps it is possible to identify something deeper than atañe to the unit of the person. The "cursing" of sexual content, in mouth of a woman there look like the sign of a dissociation. The split between the love and the sexuality. Namely one speaks about a sexuality lived to the margin of the love, of a violent sexuality where there prevails the scorn and the use of other over the love and the acceptance. An aspect of sexual equality that denatures and diminishes the feminine extract.